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1) Everybody's cute, everybody's cute - even me! But in purple, I'm stunning...
2) It's perfectly ok to go back to your room to eat or sleep as you need to. Or not.
3) Kissing, holding and caressing more lovely, sexy and wonderful people in the space of four days than I managed in my first two decades is fun and pleasurable for everyone involved.
4) If someone signs to confirm that they have read a binding code of conduct, this does not prove that they have done so in good faith, that they have properly read or understood it, or that they are going to consider themselves bound by it. This is not and cannot be the fault of anyone who has drawn up the code of conduct - it is the fault of the person or persons who decide that their privilege to act as they please is more important than everyone else's need to be respected.
5) There are people in this world who it is unwise to irritate. Do so at your own risk.
6) If you have offered to run a session at a convention about a specific topic, please make sure the session is actually about that topic. To do otherwise places you in danger of walkouts, derision (even from groups of delegates who are otherwise open-minded and tolerant of others) and in extreme circumstances, depending on how you react, may lead to you being removed from the conference by security.
7) Consent of any kind can be withdrawn at any time, for any reason, in any environment. This should be respected at all times and in all ways, for any reason, and in any environment. A request to put away a game of snap, a squeaky toy or a phallic turnip is just as important and valid as a request to stop in the middle of public or private sex or BDSM play. If you respect "stop", people are far likely to resort to "please go away now" or "fuck right off".
8) There are words that could be used to cause pain, offence and insult to each and every person on the planet. They are different words in each case, but they exist. Strive to avoid them, at conferences and in public life. Do not come crying to me if you suddenly find yourself socially excluded because you made someone else cry.
9) Despite all these issues, conferences in general and Bicon in particular, can still be a hugely positive, encouraging and wonderful experience. Please help, however you can, to make this more true, more often, for more people.
10) Doing new things with wonderful and interesting people can broaden the mind, among other things. If you broadened my mind this weekend, thank you, thank you, thank you.
2) It's perfectly ok to go back to your room to eat or sleep as you need to. Or not.
3) Kissing, holding and caressing more lovely, sexy and wonderful people in the space of four days than I managed in my first two decades is fun and pleasurable for everyone involved.
4) If someone signs to confirm that they have read a binding code of conduct, this does not prove that they have done so in good faith, that they have properly read or understood it, or that they are going to consider themselves bound by it. This is not and cannot be the fault of anyone who has drawn up the code of conduct - it is the fault of the person or persons who decide that their privilege to act as they please is more important than everyone else's need to be respected.
5) There are people in this world who it is unwise to irritate. Do so at your own risk.
6) If you have offered to run a session at a convention about a specific topic, please make sure the session is actually about that topic. To do otherwise places you in danger of walkouts, derision (even from groups of delegates who are otherwise open-minded and tolerant of others) and in extreme circumstances, depending on how you react, may lead to you being removed from the conference by security.
7) Consent of any kind can be withdrawn at any time, for any reason, in any environment. This should be respected at all times and in all ways, for any reason, and in any environment. A request to put away a game of snap, a squeaky toy or a phallic turnip is just as important and valid as a request to stop in the middle of public or private sex or BDSM play. If you respect "stop", people are far likely to resort to "please go away now" or "fuck right off".
8) There are words that could be used to cause pain, offence and insult to each and every person on the planet. They are different words in each case, but they exist. Strive to avoid them, at conferences and in public life. Do not come crying to me if you suddenly find yourself socially excluded because you made someone else cry.
9) Despite all these issues, conferences in general and Bicon in particular, can still be a hugely positive, encouraging and wonderful experience. Please help, however you can, to make this more true, more often, for more people.
10) Doing new things with wonderful and interesting people can broaden the mind, among other things. If you broadened my mind this weekend, thank you, thank you, thank you.
