mmm.. If they can find such a man would they actually want to admit it? If you reach 40 and are still a virgin the only possibilities are 1) debilitating illness of some type 2) religion or 3) trapped in area where there are no suitable people, and unable to move
Depends how you define "debilitating illness". Shyness can be a wall. People with autistic conditions sometimes - but by no means always - have problems finding lovers, for a variety of reasons.
As for the rest...well, we'll see how much embarrassment £3K is worth.
Shyness can be a wall, but if it prevents someone socialising I'd class it as mental illness rather than a character trait, and would include it as a 'debilitating illness'.
If you reach 40 and are still a virgin the only possibilities are 1) debilitating illness of some type 2) religion or 3) trapped in area where there are no suitable people, and unable to move
Maybe they're just choosy and haven't met anyone they want to sleep with yet - have you considered that? CCA
And there _are_ people out there for whom sex just isn't a big issue - people who can take it or leave it and have just never found themselves in a position where they've decided to try it out.
As of right now, that's me - though I'm almost 21 years short of 40, of course!
This of course links to the autistic spectrum disorder in my case. I'm not strictly shy, though - I *am*, however, strongly orientated towards a large circle of (frequently electronic) intellectual acquaintances.
Yes. If you reach 40 and have no other factors that affect your socialising, aren't asexual, yet still have no one that comes up to your standards you're being unrealistic in your expectations.
It's not simply a case of people coming up to your standards. It might be a case of not 'connecting', not having much in common, being afraid of getting hurt/hurt again, or the people you fancy not fancying you. Or any number of other factors. Sex is not always a case of "you'll do". CCA
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branchandroot
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Date: 2005-09-08 02:37 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-08 02:51 pm (UTC)As for the rest...well, we'll see how much embarrassment £3K is worth.
shinydan
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Date: 2005-09-08 03:11 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-08 03:59 pm (UTC)Maybe they're just choosy and haven't met anyone they want to sleep with yet - have you considered that?
CCA
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Date: 2005-09-08 04:04 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-08 07:04 pm (UTC)This of course links to the autistic spectrum disorder in my case. I'm not strictly shy, though - I *am*, however, strongly orientated towards a large circle of (frequently electronic) intellectual acquaintances.
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Date: 2005-09-08 04:22 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-09-08 08:11 pm (UTC)Sex is not always a case of "you'll do".
CCA